‘WFH doesn’t mean I can be your babysitter’: Jobless Woman Expects Her Sister to Babysit Her Children for Free Because ‘WFH’ Doesn’t Count as Working

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    Posted by u/UseIndependent8398 23 hours ago AITA for refusing to babysit my nieces
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    My (23f) sister (29f) has two daughters ages 5 and 3. She's made them very misbehaved and she never disciplines them. My mom also enables the kids to be bullies and mean and she never disciplines bad behavior either. My 5 year old niece has had two warnings from her kindergarten for bad behavior. My sister's husband is barely involved and he
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    only cares about going out with the boys and football. My mom and my sister consider this normal and whenever I call out this behavior I'm met with "he's a man, not a babysitter" excuse. Also my mom and my sister believe it's more of my duty to also take care of her kids than it is their father's simply because I'm a woman and
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    they also claim they wanna train me for the future for when I become a mom. I am engaged to be married to my lovely fiancé (24m), we live together, we both work remote tech jobs. My schedule is more demanding than his but we both
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    love our jobs. Because of the remote nature of our work my sister and mom believe they can drop the kids by our house whenever they want because "you are at home anyway". My fiancé has rightfully so demanded boundaries which I have tried to impose but my sis and mom never respect. They even go as far as to
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    claim my fiancé is trying to cut me off from the family and how he doesn't want me to have a relationship with my nieces etc. They also blame me for spending more money on stuff for me, my fiancé and our 4 dogs than I spend on my nieces.
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    My sister hasn't worked in 6 years and she now decided to start working again. She has a job interview scheduled on Friday and she demanded I watch the kids. I said there's no way, I'm working. She said it's a remote job so it doesn't count. I insisted no. I'm working so is my fiancé and her kids are not exactly saints so it's
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    not like I can occupy them to be quiet somehow. My sister started yelling at me through the phone about how I hate her kids and how I hate her, she started throwing curses at me also hoping I suffer from endometriosis and to never have kids because I hate her children.
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    My father who's mostly uninvolved with the whole drama called me to berate me on how I'm not being the "village" my sister needs and how I haven't supported her at all despite knowing how terrible and unhelpful her husband is. He also said that if she misses the job interview it will be on me. My mom of course sided with my sister too.
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    Aita for refusing to babysit and potentially causing my sis to miss an interview?
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    -ImagineReality- 23 hr. ago ΝΤΑ . it's HER kids, not yours. Even if she comes by, don't open the door, it's that easy :) And in case she is such a bad mother she would leave the kid in front of
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    your door, call child protective services.
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    Boeing367-80. 22 hr. ago One of the downsides of remote working, for sure. "I'm an aunt, not a babysitter." You have no obligation to your sister in this regard.
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    And there's no way for you to babysit without damaging/destroying your career and that of your partner. So the only thing you can do is keep saying no, and mean it.
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    If they do try to leave the kids, you need to make sure they understand the next call is the police and CPS. You don't have any option.
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    Tooth-Both572 · 21 hr. ago NTA. Ask her why she married a loser who's too stupid to be a parent. If she deflects keep screaming this question at her until she answers. She needs to be shamed
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    into shutting up. This is the only thing you say to her nonstop she answers. until
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    ChancePool8953. 18 hr. ago But she married a male. It's not a males job to look after the kids he created. (Sarcasm if someone needs it stating).
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    Tip3684 · 17 hr. ago Sounds like sister married a man like their father
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    Common_Estate62 92 . 9 hr. ago , even OP's father thinks the BIL is a horrible father.
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    daquo0 17 hr. ago And who do they think is going to watch sister's children everyday if she does get this job? OP, of course. For free, of course.
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    New-Entertainment139 16 hr. ago And the grandparents are saying it's on her, why aren't they watching the brats?
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    Melodic_Sail_6193 · 21 hr. ago Me, too. The parents seem to favour her entitled sister and the OP seems to be the family's scapegoat or doormat. You don't need enemies when you have such family. Poor OP.
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    Substantial_Shoe_360. 21 hr. ago Sis and her flying monkeys will insist that OP and her fiance watch the terrors, because work from home isn't really working. /s
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    MizPeachyKeen 20 hr. ago NTA. You & fiancé are the only adults in this equation. "Hey Grandma & Grandpa, YOU can step up and be 'the village' for sissy. My fiancé and I HAVE jobs, aren't available to babysit YOUR grandkids, so you
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    YOUR grandkids, so you need to step up." If anyone else harrasses you, tell THEM to watch the kids. Then block them. Change or re-key your doors. Get a Ring doorbell. If anyone leaves the kids on your doorstep, contact CPS.
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    You've suffered enough abuse from your parents and sister. I'd cut all contact from this point forward. Only then will you and your fiancé have a life.

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